One year

One year ago, I was in the middle of a nearly nine-hour surgery.

It’s incredible to think that experience is now behind me.

But it is!

I’ve completed my surgeries—four of them in 2020—and recently met with my oncologist to review my MRI.

All clear!

With that news, I have been “downgraded” to oncology appointments every six months. I will have additional imaging this summer and continue taking Tamoxifen, a daily medication planned for the next five to 10 years.

Cancer has changed both my perspective and my priorities.

I now divide so much of life into before and after my diagnosis: my thoughts, dates, sense of time, body, holidays and even the length of my hair.

It’s a little like life before and after children, divorce or an election.

You get the idea.

Before my diagnosis, I often pushed my deeper thoughts away. Now, I sit with them—even if some days I can manage only a minute.

I need to reflect on this past year. I don’t need to justify it or find a reason why. I simply need to acknowledge what my family and I have experienced.

I have so many blessings to count.

My tribe is alive and well.

And so am I.

Season Transition

The boys are in their second week of online school, but I’m not ready to let summer go!

I had understandably lowered my expectations for the summer because of COVID-19, cancer treatments, a second surgery, closed beaches, canceled flights, canceled college tours and canceled summer camps.

But I have to say that I’m continuing to enjoy a wonderful summer, even though the school year has already begun.

Really, I am!

We certainly made some adjustments, but the summer was still filled with family, friends, beach trips, girls’ weekends, a couples’ weekend, plenty of grown-up lunches and even a surprise 50th birthday celebration.

Yep, I turned 50!

I can honestly say that a day or two will sometimes pass without the word “cancer” crossing my mind.

It always finds its way back, but I’m better able to manage those thoughts. Cancer no longer has the hold on me that it once did.

I’m doing everything I can to care for my body, mind and soul. That has to be enough for now.

I have things to do!

My doctor’s appointment went as expected, with no new developments. I’m still taking Tamoxifen and will continue for at least the next five years.

The side effects are either diminishing, or I’m learning how to live with them.